Hey there! I’m Marianne. I have been a therapist for over ten years with many populations of humans. However, my best work is done with individuals who truly are struggling to know themselves and due to this- they see a ton of yucky symptoms that drive them nuts. Some of them being codependency, emotional reliance on others for approval, validation and acceptance and we may even engage in self-destructive behaviors including self harm, drug abuse, eating disorders, etc.
My clients are smart, insightful, and introspective yet knowledge does not heal emotions unfortunately- it’s much more complex then just that.
When we go through something emotionally challenging- our brain actually rewires. Not only does our brain re-wire during trauma- we tend to learn and pick up survival mechanisms to help protect ourselves from further trauma- such as putting others before us, not listening to our wants and needs, shutting down, or becoming dissociative (emotionally detached).
So what do I mean by trauma? Sure, you are probably thinking- sexual assault, natural disasters, coming home from war, and extreme abuse. Yes, those are all trauma examples AND so are these: having a parent not show you unconditional love, growing up in a home where emotions are not expressed, growing up with a Narcissistic parent, being made to feel less than, unloved, or inadequate. These are all examples of relational trauma.
When a child grows up feeling shame, feeling conditionally loved, or is not attended to emotionally (consistently), then that child is likely going to continue growing up feeling inadequate to some degree. This leads to low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, people pleasing, codependency, and all of the other yucky symptoms we feel. But ultimately, we lose ourselves in this process.
Not only do we grow up feeling shameful for who we are- we end up consistently trying to find that unconditional love and acceptance we didn’t get from our parent- in others, such as friends and romantic partners. We also tend to look for these needs to be met (which can never be met by anyone else but you, but we will get to that another time) in all of the wrong places. Typically we go after peers and romantic partners who are very similar to the parent or person that had the most negative impact on us. We essentially end up dating our parent, in hopes of receiving what we never received.
Sounds like a lot, right? It is. Trauma, any kind, will have an impact on the way we see ourselves, others, and the world around us.
So, what now? Well, not simply put, you must heal now. You have been walking around feeling immense shame, feeling emotionally dysregulated, have overwhelming emotions at times and at other times you feel numb or detached. You, my friend, are walking around carrying trauma in your body and thus, in your day to day life.
Healing from your trauma is the first step, the second is to really learn WHO you are away from the trauma, and lastly, putting everything into action: learning how to set healthy boundaries, how to use your voice, and how to put yourself FIRST.
If you have gotten this far, chances are you need some healing. Join me, as I help guide you on your journey to a life worth living.
Therapy for Anxiety/Depression,
Personality and Dissociative Disorders
It's scary when your teen is showing symptoms of anxiety or depression. It can feel just as scary when you, the parent, are not sure what to do. Not only will I work directly with your teen to explore, evolve, and overcome their struggles, I will work with you, the parent as well to help you be better equipped to support your teen. I offer both individual and family sessions dedicated to helping to foster maximum support and resources for your family.
It can feel lonely, confusing, and exhausting to have gone through life struggling with anxiety and/or depression and not knowing who you really are. Or maybe this is something that is rather new. Either way, I will work with you to explore, evolve, and heal those dark spaces and help you to change cognitions and behaviors all aimed at developing a life worth living for you. All I ask is that you are willing to work and embrace this journey towards optimal wellness.
As a therapist, I strive to help people make new discoveries about themselves and what helps them overcome the obstacles they face. My clients trust me to guide them on their journey to achieve the goals they set for themselves. As someone who understands the transformative power of therapy, I’m passionate about learning, listening, and bringing balance and wellness to the lives of my clients.
I enjoy working with people from all walks of life, and if you or someone you love is going through a difficult time of anxiety/depression, personality, dissociative, or identity issues, please contact me to set up a consultation.
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